In our household we have “blue jobs” and “pink jobs”. Blue jobs consist of taking out the trash, changing light bulbs, cleaning shower drains (ewwwww), any heavy duty lifting & the majority of yard work. Pink jobs are typically laundry, cooking, cleaning, vacuuming & groceries. I definitely like to do some ‘blue jobs’ – feels great to get outside and mow the grass! And Adam (hubby) can occasionally be found in the kitchen (does Saturday morning breaky count?) or in the grocery aisle.
It’s funny how we just fall into separate “his and her” roles around the house. Don’t get me wrong I would love it if hubby cleans the bathroom more often than once a year but for some reason it just doesn’t happen – and that’s fine too. I will take cleaning the bathroom every week over the dreaded shower drains!
The question is do “blue/pink jobs” fall into parenting….do you find you both have separate roles? Is one of you a bum-changer and the other a diaper bag stocker? Does only one of you take care of late night feeds or is it a 50/50 split?
I would say Adam and I are a pretty good team. He definitely does a lot more playing with the boys- he gets them all riled up and loves taking them for father/son strolls to the park. He gets crying Myles out of bed in the wee hours and sleepily passes him to me so I can nurse. When it comes to diaper changes he often steps up to the plate knowing that I have him waaay outnumbered (although we often resort to rock, paper, scissors when there is a “poonami”). I am not sure if it’s just a “mom-thing” but I do find I am way more aware of scheduling and what needs to be done to prevent out-bursts which makes Dad- time more fun!
I often think of any single-moms/dads out there….hats off to you. Seriously, I know parenting is one of the toughest jobs and I really respect (& am in awe) of those of you who do it on your own!!
Well, I am off to do a heated round of rock, paper, scissors. Crossing my fingers that I win
Leave me a comment and let me know how your family operates!