When I first found out I was pregnant with my second child I was ecstatic. And then I was terrified. How would a new baby change our family dynamic? How would my daughter accept the new baby? Raising one kid is hard enough, am I able to raise TWO responsible human beings? Some articles/friends/blogs will tell you that once the baby was born, love took over and all of that fear melted away. I’m not that person. I’m here to tell you that all of those fears were valid, and now, at five months in, I’m experiencing how hard these changes actually are. Don’t get me wrong, there’s love, but with that there is challenge.
I realized that my fears were not unfounded the very first day he was born. We were at the hospital, revelling in the fact that our son was here, but also missing our daughter, who was staying with her grandparents. She came to visit daily, to meet the baby and to get some Mommy and Daddy time in, but already it was different. Things were different. Luckily she accepted and loved him right away (after getting over the fact that he wasn’t a girl) and never once asked to send him back. Once I got home from the hospital and began recovering from my c-section, again, challenges arose. I could carry the baby but I couldn’t carry her. I could breastfeed the baby, but not her. I wasn’t able to drive so I couldn’t take her to places we had gone just the week before. This was hard on both of us.
Sleep deprivation was the next hurdle. You go through those crazy newborn days with your first, and then your promptly block them out of your mind forever. I forgot that newborns scream when you change their diaper, when they ride in the car, when they wake up, when they go to sleep, just about around the clock when they are awake. And even though they nap a lot, your first child no longer does so there is little time to “sleep when they sleep.” But, eventually that newborn settles a bit, you power through, you curse a lot, and although you don’t completely get over it, you get used to it.
I’m a person that thrives on routine and have consequently created a daughter who is the same. One thing I can tell you for sure about your baby; he won’t care about your schedule, and my son was no exception. This has taken a lot of adjusting (and relaxing) to just go with the flow when we can. But some things (like school drop off and pick up) are not flexible, and working in sleep around these hard deadlines has also been taxing. The golden rule to ‘never wake a sleeping baby’ has been broken many times already, sleep often has to happen on the go, and sometimes we all pay the price. This is still a challenge for me every day, but the best way I’ve learned to deal with it is to ask for help. It truly takes a village and right now my tribe is picking my kid up from school while the baby naps.
In general, most things about our family dynamic have changed, which, is really to be expected since our family itself has changed. Dinner time is often disrupted by the need to rock or put the babyto sleep, and many times I miss out on eating with my family altogether. Bedtime with my first has changed and revolves around when the baby falls asleep and whether or not he stays asleep. Arms are always full, and you forget what it is like to do things with two hands. Weekend outings and activities are shortened or skipped because it will run into nap time(s) so our family time together is definitely different. There is more screen time and less lap time, more chicken nuggets and less organic vegetables, more netflix nights than date nights.
But, just when I’m ready to call it quits, to give up on motherhood and curl in a ball, something shifts- be it perspective, sleeping patterns, developmental leaps- change happens. And it becomes easier. And you start to settle into this new normal, this new dynamic. And even though the hard times are still hard, the good times come more often and the love continues to multiply. And the realization comes that this new dynamic will continue to shift and change, there will be peaks and valleys, but in the end, you’ll forget about what you used to be, just like you forgot about those nightmare newborn days. And you’ll hold on with your full arms and your full heart and wait for it to all change again.
Katie is a new mom of two and will be sharing her experiences in parenting a toddler and a newborn though this series “New with Two”.
Our Clearance Center Sales are held on the first Wednesday of EVERY month, so that means this Wednesday, March 1st, from 10am-1pm, Snuggle Bugz will be hosting your favourite sale again! As always, we must stress that this is a CLEARANCE sale and not a warehouse sale. And as much as we would love to have you shop at one of our beautiful retail locations, the Clearance Sale will be taking place in our Clearance Centre at 1040 Sutton Drive, Unit #1 in Burlington.
Product inventory is limited – meaning once we are sold out, that’s it – and products are SOLD AS IS. ALL ITEMS PURCHASED AT THE CLEARANCE CENTRE ARE A FINAL SALE & CANNOT BE RETURNED TO ANY SNUGGLE BUGZ RETAIL LOCATION.
Here are some helpful hints so you know WHAT TO EXPECT at the sale:
1. Location. As mentioned above, the sale is at our Clearance Centre, not our store. 1040 Sutton Drive, Burlington. There is no street parking available for the sale.
2. Come On-Time. The doors open at 10am and will close promptly at 1pm.
3. Be prepared to wait. Come with a charged up phone, warm clothes and an expectation that there will be a line.
4. Dress for the weather. The line to get in is located outside, in our parking lot. Be sure to dress warmly and that all baby fingers and toes are cozy.
5. Food. Eat before you come, bring snacks and water.
6. Washrooms. We know we said bring water but we DO NOT have access to washrooms for public use. Please plan accordingly.
7. Strollers. This event is not particularly stroller friendly. Please leave any strollers in the car or at home and consider using a baby carrier if you are bringing your child with you.
8. Carrying your purchases. We do not have shopping carts, so come with free arms and hands.
9. Payment. We accept Visa, Master Card or debit only. Amex, Cash and Gift Cards are NOT accepted. All items are FINAL SALE.
10. Delivery. All items will need to be taken with you when you purchase. Please ensure you bring a vehicle that is capable of transporting what you hope to buy.
Please keep in mind that these products are sold AS IS. The inventory selection includes pieces that were floor models, discontinued items, items that have been opened or removed from their original packaging, etc. These are not items that you would find in one of our retail stores or online. All products are safe for use.
With expectations clearly set and helpful hints provided, your shopping experience at our March Clearance Sale should be that much better! We look forward to seeing you there!
Hello, it’s me, Sarah! I am so thrilled to be back on the blog and sharing updates of another pregnancy with you, not just because hey I’m pregnant again and that means new life, but because I like these updates! If you’re just joining us on the blog or have joined the parenting world in the last two years, you’ll have missed my previous series, “Behind the Bump,” which chronicled the weekly journey of my pregnancy with my son, Harrison. If you have a few minutes and you haven’t checked it out, I encourage you to do so. Consider yourself warned though: it’s a bit of a rabbit hole and it’s easy to start reading at The First Trimester and suddenly find yourself at 38 weeks and wondering why it’s getting dark outside and if you’ve fed your kids today. You can enjoy stories about how we found out about our surprise baby, when I fainted in my father in law’s office, and the panic that ensued when I learned he was in the Frank Breech position.
Now that we have that out of the way, HI! I’m pregnant again! This little rugrat is due out to the world at the summer solstice which obviously invoked a joke about how it’s going to be a long day (for me) from my husband. Pregnant women love jokes like that. Let’s take a trip back in time to my first trimester, which I chronicled a bit in my own digital diary and will share with you below!
13 days post ovulation (day 26 of cycle). Well there it is, the faintest FAINTEST positive I’ve ever seen (I mean, how many have I seen, really?), but it’s definitely a positive. Here’s a picture of a thing I peed on that you never knew you needed –
That’s also bath water surrounding the test, just in case you were particularly horrified. We have a wedding today so I’m glad I know this but now it’s all I can think about. I test again in a few days (2 weeks + 1 day, day 29) and it’s slightly darker. Definitely pregnant. I become more conscious of my prenatal vitamins and obviously continue to rule out the wine and other like beverages but other than that it’s business as usual. I call my midwife to schedule an 8 week appointment.
Waiting. The first trimester, man. The longest 12 weeks ever, I swear.
Riddle me this.
8pm: Drink 500mL glass of water
10pm: Pee out glass of water and go to bed
4am: Pee out seven glasses of water that I have no clue when I may have drank. Don’t drink any more, go back to sleep
6:45am: Pee out two more glasses of water that I’ve produced whilst asleep. I know it’s the kidneys and all but really. I MEAN REALLY.
We still don’t have batteries in the scale so have no clue where I’m starting from here.
So tired, omg so tired. I’m approximately 60x more tired than I was in the first trimester of my first pregnancy. Back then I went on a vacation to NYC which obviously involves a ton of walking and I didn’t die. Now I can barely walk upstairs to my bed. You can see below that I was exploring a submarine in Connecticut last time and this time, well, trying to sleep.
This week I did have to go home from work, using my overtime hours, and sleep for 2 hours before resuming my evening and then going to bed at the regular time and sleeping all night. Not feeling great but just continuing to eat and drink protein drinks to get the calories. Lots of gagging but I’m still functional for the most part (define “functional”….). I find if I let myself get actually hungry then it’s pretty much game over for the remainder of the day. Luckily it’s Halloween so I have tons of small bags of snackable foods nearby. Not the healthiest options (actually the least healthiest), but certainly saving me from doom and/or gloom. I’m feeling more nervous and anxious about this pregnancy than previously, I’m not sure why.
Oh hey, maternity clothing. I forgot how limited my selection was. And have the styles really changed so much in three years? Half this stuff is completely hideous! First midwife appointment and ultrasound this week (because I told her I was a bit anxious), they moved the due date back two days so I thought I was exactly 9 weeks and it turns out I’m still 8 weeks 5 days. Heartbeat looks good, and everything else looks good from what they can see, phew! I’m so glad I won’t have to drink the water again before another ultrasound because I drank half of what they suggested and it was ALMOST A DISASTER!
Because I thought 8+5 was actually 9, and then it was moved back, THIS HAS BEEN THE LONGEST WEEK EVER! We told my in-laws about the baby. They didn’t really get it when they saw the shirt on my toddler but it eventually clicked.
Phew. Why is this first trimester taking FOREVER?! I’m only 32 (but turning 33 right away here) but think I might die of old age before this trimester is over, let alone the baby is born! I’m so definitely showing (particularly near the end of the day) but trying to keep it under wraps for a while so that makes getting dressed a bit stressful each morning – a struggle I remember acutely from my first pregnancy. I’m just rotating the same four tops and two pairs of pants. I’m starting to feel the first trimester fog lifting a bit and actually took some time to plan lunches for the week. THAT WAS A GOOD IDEA! Making sure I’m always fed is the best strategy.
Trimester 2, here we go! If you have any good stories from your first trimester, please post them in the comments below! If you were around for the first Behind the Bump, please let me know!
BRITAX ANNOUNCES A VOLUNTARY RECALL ON ALL BRITAX B-AGILE AND BOB MOTION STROLLERS WHEN USING THE CLICK & GO RECEIVERS TO CREATE A TRAVEL SYSTEM.
In cooperation with the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC), Health Canada, and Profeco (Mexico) – Britax is conducting a voluntary recall on all Britax B-Agile and BOB Motion Strollers when using the Click & Go receivers to create a travel system (car seat attached to stroller frame).
As per Britax’s recall website:
Britax has received reports of damaged Click & Go receiver mounts on the stroller frames which may cause the attached car seats to unexpectedly disconnect and fall. After a thorough investigation of these incident reports, Britax found that damage to the stroller frame can occur when the stroller is stowed or dropped while the Click & Go receivers are still attached.
NOTE: You can continue to safely use your stroller in the fully reclined mode for an infant, without the car seat attached to the stroller.
The model numbers included in this recall are identified below:
U691878, U691879, U691881, U691882, U691884, U691904, U691905, S04402800, S04978900, U451835, U451837, U451841, U551835, U551837, U551841, U551861, U551862, U551863, U551864, U551865, U551905, U551906, U341763, U341764, U341782, U341783, U341825, U341826, U341828, U461763, U461764, U461782, U461783, U461825, U461826, U461828, U341X82, U34X782
B-Agile Travel System:
S01298600, S01298700, S01635200, S02063600, S02063700, S02063800, S02063900, S02064000, S03803400, S03803500, S03803700, S03803800, S03803900, S04144400, S04144500, S04144600, S04144700, S04144800, S04144900, S04145000, S04183700, S04183800, S04184000, S04281200, S04281300, S04437700, S04628500, S04884200, S04884300, S04884400, S04884500, S04975600, S05060600, S05260200, S05511600, S05511700, S865800, S865900, S874300, S874400, S874500, S877200, S890100, S896000, S896200, S896600, S907200, S907300, S907400, S907500, S907600, S910200, S910300, S910400, S910500, S912300, S914300, S914500, S914700, S914900, S915200, S915400, S917400, S921800, S921900, S923700, U391875, U511875, U511877
U721895, U721896, U491842, U491843, U491844, U491908, U491909, U491910, U361763, U361818, U361819, U361825, U471818, U471819
S888600, S890200, S890300, S890400, S890500, S909700, S910600, S910700, S910800, S910900, S912600, U391820, U391821, U391822, U481820, U481821, U481822, U501820, U501821, U501822, U501907
The model number can be found on the inside of the stroller’s metal frame near the right rear wheel for single strollers and in the front middle underside of the frame on double strollers.
If you are using your stroller as a travel system, or plan to use it as a travel system in the future, here’s what this means for you:
- Visit Britax’s recall website or contact Britax Customer Service Department at 1-844-227-0300 to:
- Request a free repair kit, containing a replacement set of Click & Go receivers and instructions for single strollers only.
- Learn how to continue using the double stroller safely for infants.
If you have any questions or concerns, contact the Britax Customer Service Department at the dedicated recall line: 1-844-227-0300. Customer Service business hours are Monday-Friday 8:30 a.m.to 7:00 p.m. ET and Saturday 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. ET.
Please do not bring your affected product to Snuggle Bugz store locations as we are unable to provide you with a remedy kit. Britax will ship them to you directly.
Thank you for your attention to this matter,
Winter is here, and with it lots of germs and sickness floating around with the snowflakes. There are a variety of illnesses more prevalent in the winter months, and our little ones (as well as pregnant mamas) are most susceptible. It’s important to protect against these the best you can, but once it comes, know your options for remedies and healing, too.
Your child can easily catch a cold or the flu anywhere. Even if they spend the whole day at home, mom or dad can carry germs into the house and baby can end up sick. This is why the first defence is always hand washing! As soon as you come into your home, wash your hands right away. Have older children wash their hands as soon as they come home from school as well. This may seem strict, but doctors agree that hand washing is the best way to prevent sickness from spreading, so even (politely) ask guests to do the same.
Comfort Essentials for the Common Cold
For the common cold, the most likely culprit to visit your home this season, there is no actual cure. Your job is to keep your ailing baby as comfortable as possible while the cold runs its course, so start with a few essentials.
You can clear baby’s sinuses with a nasal aspirator. I love the Swedish brand NoseFrida – it works so efficiently, and you’ll be amazed how much was in that precious little baby’s head! Once their nose is clear, keep it that way with a nursery humidifier like this one from Motorola. Another option are crib wedges, which slightly elevate the upper body, allowing less sinus blockage. Once baby can breathe properly again, they’ll be much more comfortable, which will yield longer naps and restorative sleep.
To increase baby’s comfort during a fever or cold, there are homeopathic options such as Kids 0-9 Cough and Cold and Flu Buster Homeocoksinum, or the traditional route of Acetaminophen or Ibuprofen, the latter not being safe until baby is over the age of six months. No matter the medication you use, be sure you know your child’s exact weight to determine the dosage, and check with a healthcare professional first.
Your child will likely not have a big appetite when ill, but you must insist on an increase of liquids. Hydration is key when they’re feverish, and especially if they’ve lost hydration from diarrhea or vomiting. Our kids typically only drink water, but when they’re sick and we need to coax them to drink more, we will add some fruit juice in with the water. Consult your pharmacist about whether or not your child may need an electrolyte drink if they’ve lost excessive hydration.
Diagnosis of any kind should always be done by a healthcare professional. Ideally, ask your child’s doctor in advance what their suggestions are for when to call in about a fever or flu. Some doctors have exact temperature requirements before they suggest seeking medical attention versus riding out the illness at home, so get to know your doctor’s rule of thumb. If you can’t reach your doctor, you can always contact your province’s telephone health line to speak with a registered nurse. This has saved us many times during late nights and weekends when our doctor’s office is closed and we weren’t sure about visiting the ER. When consulting with a doctor or nurse, you will need to know is your child’s temperature, so be sure you have a digital thermometer at home.
Spring is around the corner and we are almost through cold and flu season. Here’s hoping your family is spared this year, but in case you aren’t, we hope these tips help you on the road to recovery!
Emily is a Montreal-based writer and blogger, but most importantly, a mom of three littles (age five and under). She geeks out over cloth diapers, lattes, and will do just about anything to travel. You can find her on Instagram @emmorrice where she profusely overgrams pictures of her meals, kids and city.
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